What happened to the Church?

I read an article the other day in the December 2005 National Geographic about how Buddhism is growing here in America which said "Buddhism is gaining Western followers drawn by its ideals of pacifism, selflessness, and social action." And it makes me wonder, how did we let this happen? Our God is the Prince of Peace who calls us to care for the widows and orphans, and yet somehow we aren't the ones people see as peaceful and selfless. Somehow we let the focus get on to who's a bigger sinner instead of how can we help people? Somehow we've gotten the idea that being a Christian is all about who can yell loudest, who can point more fingers, who can build the bigger church rather than about taking up our crosses and going into the world to help people. What has happened to the church of Christ that all we're known for is condemning homosexuals and protesting at abortion clinics? What happened to the shining light of our good works in Matthew 5:13-16? What happened to the cheerful giver of 2 Corinthians 9:6-9? How on earth are the people who are called to be the salt and the light of the earth not the people seen to have ideals of selflessness and social action? How on earth are the people who are called to "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you. To him who strikes you on the one cheek, offer the other also" (Luke 6:27-29) not the people seen to have the ideal of pacifism? How have we allowed ourselves and each other to so misrepresent Christ that when people think of Christians, they don't think of the God of mercy and love, but only of hateful, proud, rule-bound people?